In August of 2012, as many families prepared for the start of a new school year, the editorial team of the Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism blog contacted a few Autistic people (myself included) who’d survived the public school system, and a few non-autistic parents who’d worked hard to help their Autistic children survive the public school system.

What, they asked us, did we wish that we had known, back when we (or our kids) were first starting school?

Our answers were published on the Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism site on August 27, 2012, in a blog post called Autism and Back-to-School: What Do You Wish You Knew? 

As part of my project of making this blog a place where all my various online writings can be easily found, here is a slightly revised and expanded version of my contribution to that post.

Things I Wish I’d Known in Kindergarten

There’s a lot that I learned later on, in adolescence and adulthood, that I wish I’d known in kindergarten and elementary school.

I wish I’d known the things that I later learned through aikido training: the self-regulation and self-defense skills; the ability to both inwardly access and outwardly convey calm centeredness and physical confidence.

And I wish I’d known that I wasn’t alone, that I would eventually find more and more people like me.

By this I mean not only the Autistic community, and the friends I made as a teenager and adult who weren’t Autistic but to whom I could relate in other ways. I also mean that I wish I’d known there were others out there who’d seen what I was seeing and experiencing: the dynamics of institutionalized oppression, privilege, marginalization, injustice, and abuse; the fact that school was clearly constructed to brutalize children into soulless conformity and unquestioning compliance, and to crush, rather than cultivate, genuine creativity and curiosity.

I could see all of this clearly, but I had no words for it, and the fact that I didn’t have the words for it and that no one else seemed to be seeing it left me feeling alienated and furious; the frustration ate at me every day, throughout my elementary school years.

I wish someone had said to me, back then, “Yes, what you’re witnessing and experiencing is institutionalized social injustice; it’s everywhere in the world and it follows the same basic patterns that it has followed throughout history. There are other people who’ve seen it for what it is, who’ve come up with words for it and written about it. These systems of injustice dominate human society, and yes, most people are largely oblivious and complicit. But some people have woken up, and more people will; you’re not alone.”

I wish someone had said all of that to me on my first day of kindergarten.

Never assume a that child isn’t ready to understand such things. Especially not an Autistic or otherwise neurodivergent child (not because we’re necessarily any smarter than neurotypical children, but because there are more likely to be unpredictable discrepancies between what we know and what we’re capable of communicating that we know). To quote one of the common maxims of the Neurodiversity Movement: presume competence.

Sometimes what’s causing meltdowns and rages and “behavior issues” is that a child really does understand.




Steve Silberman is a journalist and wonderful human being who’s done some superb writing on autism and neurodiversity. He’s currently working on a book entitled NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity, scheduled for publication in Winter 2015, which I’m certainly looking forward to reading.

On April 2, 2012, Steve posted on his blog an extraordinary piece entitled Autism Awareness Is Not Enough: Here’s How to Change the World. For this piece, Steve reached out to some of the leading activist voices in the Autistic community - including Kassiane Sibley, Lydia Brown, Ari Ne’eman, and myself, among others – and also to several non-autistic people who have done significant work to promote autism acceptance. Steve posed a question to each one of us: What are five things that could be done to make the world a more comfortable, respectful, and nurturing place for Autistic people?

The resulting blog post, listing all of the responses Steve got, is one of the best documents on autism and neurodiversity that’s been produced thus far. When I teach courses on autism or neurodiversity, it’s always among the readings I assign. 

I’m currently engaged in the project of reposting on this blog various things that I’ve written elsewhere, so that all of my significant online writings can be found here. So reprinted below is my own list of five things that could be done to make the world a better place for Autistics (and, I think, for everyone). Aside from a few very minor wording changes for the sake of improved clarity, this is the same list that I contributed to Steve’s fantastic blog post in 2012. If you haven’t already done so, it’s worth checking out that whole original blog post, to read Steve’s great introduction and everyone else’s “five things” lists.


1. De-pathologize autism and Autistic people.
Autism is a natural form of human neurodiversity. Labeling it as a “mental disorder” or a “disease” has no scientific basis, has no benefit for Autistic people or their families, and leads inevitably to stigmatization, shame, and marginalization. Blind people, Deaf people, and many other disabled people get the services and accommodations they need without being labeled as having mental disorders. We don’t have to call autism a disorder or a disease to acknowledge that Autistic people are disabled and can require accommodations. Stop worrying about the latest changes to the DSM’s diagnostic criteria, and just remove autism from the DSM entirely, just like homosexuality was rightly removed years ago.

2. Use the language of diversity, not the language of pathology.
Language matters. The language that is used in talking about autism and Autistic people affects how Autistic people are perceived — by themselves, by others, by society – and thus how they are treated. In an Autistic-friendly world, anyone speaking of autistics would observe the same linguistic conventions that civilized, non-bigoted people observe when speaking of any other social minority group (e.g., African-Americans or gays). You wouldn’t say that an African-American “has negroism” or “suffers from blackness,” so don’t speak of an Autistic person as “having” or “suffering from” autism. (For a more in-depth discussion of this topic, see my essay, Throw Away the Master’s Tools: Liberating Ourselves from the Pathology Paradigm.)

3. Forget “normal.”
Recognize that when it comes to human diversity — including the diversity of minds — “normal” is a highly subjective, culturally-constructed fiction. Recognize that there is no “normal” mind, and that conformity to the local conception of “normal” is in no way synonymous with health, well-being, or personal fulfillment – and is, in fact, often in direct conflict with those things. A healthy, thriving Autistic person looks very different from a healthy, thriving non-autistic person. In nurturing the development of Autistic individuals, the goal of parents, educators, therapists, etc., should be to produce healthy, thriving, Autistic people, rather than Autistic people trained to stifle their true selves in order to pass as “normal.”

4. Equal protection under the law, broadly interpreted and strongly enforced.
Recognize Autistic people as a social minority group, grant them the same legal protections that are (or should be) extended to ethnic minorities. Interpret those legal protections as broadly as possible, and rigorously enforce them. When an Autistic person is abused for acting Autistic, prosecute it as a hate crime. Anytime an ABA “therapist” grabs an Autistic child’s hands to stop her from moving like an Autistic person, prosecute it as criminal assault and as a hate crime. Individuals and organizations that speak of autism as a “disease” or “tragedy,” and that talk of “curing” it, should be prosecuted for hate speech and incitement to violence, just as if they were advocating a “Final Solution to the Jewish Problem.” Anyone involved in seeking or implementing prenatal tests for autism or any other sort of prenatal prevention of autism should be prosecuted in international court under the Genocide Convention, which classifies as genocide any attempt to prevent births within a targeted group.

5. Work for global peace and economic justice.
Many non-autistic parents worry that if they don’t subject their Autistic kids to extensive (and expensive) “treatments” to bring them closer to “normal,” the kids will never be able to take care of their own basic survival needs, and will end up in awful institutions or on the streets. This is an entirely legitimate concern. But the reason it’s a concern is that we live in a world in which the forces of global capitalism have replaced the true spirit of community with an artificial sense of competition, isolation, and “every man for himself,” and in which all but the most wealthy are kept in a constant condition of anxiety and fear of scarcity. This is not the natural state of humanity, and not the way the world has to be. Every disabled person in the U.S. could be supported for life on a fraction of the money that our government spends killing people in the Middle East each year – to say nothing of the funds that would be available if we made giant corporations and the wealthiest 1% of Americans pay their fair share of taxes. Instead of working so hard to change Autistic people in the name of helping them survive in a cruel world, why not work to make the world less cruel?




Interview on MDMA-Assisted Therapy from the MAPS Bulletin

June 10, 2014

The Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS) is conducting a research study on using MDMA-assisted psychotherapy to treat social anxiety in Autistic adults. I’m on board as a consultant. I’m pleased to be a part of this project, because it’s one of those rare studies that focuses on treating a problem (social anxiety) for which many Autistic adults […]

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April, Autism, and Allies

April 2, 2014

Every April, fear-mongering organizations like Autism Speaks – organizations that profit from stigmatizing, harming, and exploiting Autistic people – do a big publicity thing that they call “Autism Awareness Month.” And every April, the Autistic community and their real allies counter by declaring “Autism Acceptance Month,” calling for an end to the stigmatization, pathologizing, and […]

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What Is Autism?

March 1, 2014

How many websites are there that have a page called something like “What Is Autism?” or “About Autism”? How often do organizations, professionals, scholars, and others need to include a few paragraphs of basic introductory “What Is Autism?” text in a website, brochure, presentation, or academic paper? I’ve seen so many versions of that obligatory […]

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This Is Autism

November 18, 2013

On November 11, an extremist anti-Autistic hate group with the ironic name “Autism Speaks” – a well-funded organization with a history of promoting the stigmatization, silencing, disenfranchisement, abuse, murder, and eugenic extermination of people like myself – released a “call for action” authored by one of its founders.  Like much of the previous anti-Autistic hate […]

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Throw Away the Master’s Tools: Liberating Ourselves from the Pathology Paradigm

August 16, 2013

This piece is a revised version of an essay that I contributed to the groundbreaking anthology Loud Hands: Autistic People, Speaking, published in 2012. While the term neurodiversity originally developed within the Autistic community, the neurodiversity paradigm is not about autism exclusively, but about the full spectrum of human neurocognitive variation. This particular essay, however, […]

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July 26, 2013

Welcome to my blog, Neurocosmopolitanism. For this first entry, I figure I ought to offer some basic explanation of the blog’s title and primary theme. What the heck does neurocosmopolitanism even mean? Before I go there, I ought to first provide basic definitions of a couple of other concepts that will be central to my writings […]

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